Thursday, September 3, 2015

What is Your Calling in Life?



Your Personal Most High Calling from the Most High God
Barbara Henderson

Have you ever known someone who had a passion to get something done?  Maybe it was your mom who had a passion to get supper on the table on time.  Maybe it was your mom who had a passion to have food to actually put on the table.  Maybe it was your dad who had a passion to never be late or miss work unless he was having his appendix removed.  I guess you could start with little passions and then move on to big passions.  Of course, if someone doesn’t have a passion to get their seemingly small jobs done, the thankless jobs which take up so much of someone’s time, then they won’t have a passion to get anything big done either.  You could call a passion to get something done a calling.  Christians look for a calling from God to do something like preach or become a missionary.  But is there more???  Yes!  God calls people to do all sorts of things.  Here’s how you find your calling

FIRST, and without any doubt or slackness, you live your life in obedience to God’s instructions given to you in the Bible.  This means you have to actually know what the Bible has to say about things in general and things specifically.  Part of obedience is to study the Bible.  Read it yourself.  Listen to sermons by godly pastors.  Here’s a big hint.  If a pastor spends most of his time on telling you how to be successful materially and feel good about yourself then he is not a pastor worth your time.  Erase him from your friend list!  Actually, obedience is the first and most important calling of all Christians.  To refuse to answer the call to obedience would be like someone wanting to operate on your brain without ever going to medical school.  That ‘wanna-be’ surgeon might actually be called into medicine, but he/she is called to go through years of training before actually being qualified to operate on anyone’s brain.  I want to state one more time – you personally are called to obedience.  Peruse obedience with a  passion.  Pray for a greater desire to be obedient to God’s instructions. 

Second, do the things you know to do.  Be kind to people.  Treat other people the way you want to be treated.  And do your duty to God, to your family, to your church, to your job, and to your country.  Delight thyself in the Lord.  Ask Him for a passion to know Him better and draw closer to Him in all that you do.  If you have time for a five second prayer that is the prayer to pray unless you are about to fall off a cliff or get run over by a truck.  In that case ‘help!’ is the best prayer to pray.  The point is that God is with you everywhere every second.  Don’t put off talking to Him until you can manage that ‘hour of quiet time with the Lord’.  If you can pull that off – good for you.  Time in God’s word is very important.  But, having a continual prayerful attitude is equally important.  It is your duty to draw closer to God if you are a Christian.  If you don’t care to draw closer to God then it is time to question whether you are actually a Christian or someone who is following along for a time. 

Doing your duty is very often a most thankless task!  People take your for granite, pile extra work on you, and completely ignore the things you accomplish.  Do your duty anyway. 

Next look at what you want to do.  What is in your heart that won’t go away?  It may be something big.  It may be something that costs a lot of money.  It may be to do something that costs practically nothing.  Probably the most common three things that people think of when they think of a ‘calling’ are becoming a preacher, a teacher, or a doctor or nurse.  My oncologist is a Christian man.  I know he was called to do what he does.  He cares about his patients.  The nicest thing I have heard anyone say about him was from a young woman whose husband had lost a three year battle with cancer.  She said Dr. Ye fought through the entire illness like a tiger, and then comforted her more than any other person when her husband died.  She said, ‘What a calling he has. There is no one in the world like him.’  It is easy for me to see him as a good doctor since I am doing so well, but for someone who lost her husband and the dream of a family they wanted to have together still praising the man says something special about the man.  He definitely has a calling from God.

Christians especially need to stop making career choices based on what will make them the most money.  They need to make choices based on what God is calling them to do.  It is true that often being self-supporting requires a job that isn’t exactly related to your calling, but that doesn’t mean you should give up your calling. The Apostle Paul was a tent maker.  I find that fascinating. He wrote so much of the New Testament, he started churches, he counseled people, and he still had time to make tents. He also found time to get himself beaten, thrown in jail, stoned, and brought up before Caesar.  Some people are high energy people.  Others like me were never high energy on the best day of our lives.  But there is something about a ‘pressing matter’ that encourages you to do whatever it takes to get it done.  I am not talking about staying up all night to beat that video game. I am talking about something worth doing!  It may be something great.  It may be something small. But, it really needs to be done, and you are the one with a passion to get it done.

If you are actually a Christian your life long calling is to glorify God and please Him by your actions.  Within the boundaries set for your life by the Bible, you are free to follow your dreams.
Let’s say for instance that you are called to preach. That is an easy one.  Within that calling will be many smaller callings.  There should be a passion to study the word of God.  There should be a passion to teach others what you have learned through Bible study. There may be a passion to grow a church.  There may be a passion to start a church.  There may be a passion for a radio ministry, a television ministry, a bus ministry, a missions support team, and many other things within your main passion.  The passion that must never change is the passion to please God and grow closer to Him.  The same person may be involved in all of the above, but it won’t happen all at once.  You may be called to start a business.  There will be many aspects of growing a business. It starts small and over time different things are added.  Whatever the case, don’t be impatient.  It won’t all happen at once regardless of what your calling may be.  I want to mention here that a high calling for women is to be a godly wife, mother, and eventually grandmother.  If that is your calling then go for it.  Don’t let the world belittle you for your choice.  It is true that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.  Children are message parents send to the future.  Women are free to choose not to get married, and not to have children. Just don’t be pushed into doing what you don’t feel called to do. 

Every passion or calling in the life of a Christian begins the same.  We are called to please and glorify God by our personal actions.  That is a passion without end.  But within the confines of pleasing God your options are limitless.  What do you want to do? What do you love to do?  What do you want to try to learn to do?  Is there something that stays on your mind?

When something is staying on your mind I have a very good way to begin checking to see if it is from the Lord. Every single time it comes to you mind instead of thinking about how to get it done or how much good it would do simply pray about it.  A short prayer is good.  Just pray something like, ‘Lord if this is from You make a way for me to begin and help it to stay on my mind.  If it isn’t from You, help me to forget it.’  You will be surprised at how many wonderful ideas you forget all about before a week is over, much less an entire month.

If an idea stays with you over time, then the prayer changes to , ‘How do I start?  What do I do first?  And PLEASE don’t let me jump in front of You Lord. I know Abraham and Moses got in a hurry instead of waiting on You and had dire consequences for themselves and their family. So, while I do want to do what You want me to do, help me to wait on You to get things started.’

Nehemiah is the go to guy for an example of someone who prepared for a task but waited on the Lord to get things started.  Nehemiah was faithful to do his job, but he made all the plans on what he needed to do and the materials he would need to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem.  When the opportunity arose he asked the king for everything necessary.  His list of building materials was massive, and he was not shy about listing everything when he got the opportunity.  He didn’t start a building program on his own.  He waited on the Lord.  We should not start a project on our own either.  The Lord will open the doors He wants opened on the day He wants them to be open.  Abraham and Moses had plans for good things.  Abraham even had a covenant with God, but both men stepped in front of God through impatience.  There is a time to continue praying.  Then there is a time to continue praying and planning.  God will give you a boost forward when the time is right. 

In the meantime faithfully do your duty to glorify God in all that you do.  Ask God for a passion to get even your tiny tasks done in an excellent manner.  Remember the one who is faithful in little is made ruler over much.  There are going to be failures along the way whatever you do.  I read somewhere that ‘everyone is a failure until they are a success’.  That is funny, but it is also true.  Whatever you are doing, even if God is with you completely, there are going to be difficulties.  Don’t make the mistake of judging God’s hand in a matter by its immediate success or failure.  Nehemiah went through many difficulties with people who opposed rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem after God provided the resources and time for him to take on the project.  If he wanted a continual string of ‘omens’ from God that he was doing God’s will he would have given up quickly. 

And there you have it.  Commit your life to obedience to God.  Ask Him for a passion to actually be obedient, and to open your eyes to see what He wants you to do.

God bless you.


All the Way My Savior Leads Me

  1. All the way my Savior leads me,
    What have I to ask beside?
    Can I doubt His tender mercy,
    Who through life has been my Guide?
    Heav’nly peace, divinest comfort,
    Here by faith in Him to dwell!
    For I know, whate’er befall me,
    Jesus doeth all things well;
    For I know, whate’er befall me,
    Jesus doeth all things well.
  2. All the way my Savior leads me,
    Cheers each winding path I tread,
    Gives me grace for every trial,
    Feeds me with the living Bread.
    Though my weary steps may falter
    And my soul athirst may be,
    Gushing from the Rock before me,
    Lo! A spring of joy I see;
    Gushing from the Rock before me,
    Lo! A spring of joy I see.
  3. All the way my Savior leads me,
    Oh, the fullness of His love!
    Perfect rest to me is promised
    In my Father’s house above.
    When my spirit, clothed immortal,
    Wings its flight to realms of day
    This my song through endless ages:
    Jesus led me all the way;
    This my song through endless ages:
    Jesus led me all the way.

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Josh Duggar - and Finding a Faithful Husband or Wife



Josh Duggar and Finding a Faithful Spouse
Barbara Henderson

It is all over the news that Josh Duggar of reality TV fame has added adultery to his list of sins.  What a hypocrite.  He has checked into a rehab facility now.

First, I don’t care if his parents have 25 children.  One hundred years ago it was not uncommon for people to have a dozen children.  Nineteen was uncommon, but wasn’t a reason for the family to be turned into a freak show on reality TV.  Hopefully most of the family is made up of nice people who try to behave like the Christians they claim to be.  If there are 25 or 30 of them now counting all the children, in laws, and grandchildren, then it is highly likely there will be a hypocrite in the bunch. So what happened to Josh to make him turn out the way he is?

Is his wife at fault?  Could she have kept him faithful if she had been a better wife?
Are his parents at fault?  Could they have done a better job when he was growing up?
Is the legal system to blame?  Should they have punished him more early on?  Why wasn’t more counseling required?
Is advertising at fault?  I mean, you can’t even go through a check out line at a grocery store without seeing what amounts to pornography.

I will go out on a limb here and say none of the above.  Josh is a hypocrite because that is who he is.  Until he truly decides to rely on Jesus Christ to help him become a better person, he will stay a slimy hypocrite.

Here is the truth. No one, and I mean no one, can pick a faithful spouse with 100% certainty.  BUT, you can be a faithful spouse.  That is really the bottom line.  You are responsible for your own actions.  What you do is your choice.  If you are blessed with a faithful spouse then thank the Lord.  If your spouse is not faithful then the blame rests squarely on him/her.  There are no actions on the part of one spouse that give the other spouse permission to cheat! 

In the Bible there is the story of Gomer and Hosea.  Gomer was a cheating wife.  She went from loved and cared for wife to temple prostitute.  How did Hosea respond?  He didn’t go out and take on a floozy of his own.  He stayed true to God.  Eventually he even took the hussy back!  I am not suggesting that everyone needs to reconcile with a cheating spouse. But a cheating spouse will put the ‘wronged spouse’ to a test.  If they go out and pick up whoever will go home for the night then that person was a cheater at heart as well.

Be faithful to marriage vows yourself regardless of what you spouse does. 

Jerry and I have been married 44 years now.  It has been a faithful marriage.  Jerry either spends his time working or with me or possibly hunting with one of our kids.  Jerry has no inclination to cheat.  I don’t take any credit for that.  He is a faithful husband because that is who he is. He has been blessed with a wonderful near perfect wife…..  but, it would not have made a difference in that matter.  He chose to follow the instructions in the Bible on everything.  He is faithful to me because that is a choice he made before we even met.  I thank God for him, but I do not take any credit.

If there are any people reading this who have a cheating spouse I can tell you flatly that you do not get any of the blame.  It isn’t your fault.  There is no excuse for cheating.  Cheaters come up with a reason to cheat. That is what they do.  I don’t know of anything that would make it easier, but I do know what would make it harder. It is made harder when the offended spouse takes part of the blame or when family and friends put blame on him/her.  The important thing to remember is that a cheating spouse does not give the other spouse a free pass to cheat also.

If you know someone facing a situation like this they need you to be a friend.  I will say flatly not to be overly friendly with a person of the opposite sex.  Ladies encourage other ladies.  Men encourage other men. It is also a very bad idea to have ‘pity parties’ where women get together to talk about how awful men are, or men get together to talk about how difficult women are.  A cheating spouse really tests everyone in their circle of family, friends, church, and work.  What the cheater did was a gross sin.  How every Christian responds is a test for each Christian.

I never met the Duggars.  I think I saw them once in a grocery store parking lot somewhere in Arkansas, which is sort of like an Elvis sighting.  I don’t know and I really don’t care.  Maybe I saw a group of the Rainbow People.  These people are only the subject of this article because of their recent notoriety relating to Josh Duggar being a hypocrite instead of the practicing Christian he claimed to be.  Non-Christians love trash like this.  In response I wanted to say something to all people who have faced a situation like this, or family and friends who have watched someone else go through this. 

Until the cheater actually repents restoration of fellowship to even friends – much less their spouse – is not really possible.  It is the same with all sins.  It can’t be fixed until the sinner is willing to acknowledge wrong doing and turn from it. 

Committed Christian should keep their focus on obedience to God in all circumstances. The sin of one person never gives another person a reason to sin.  That means no grumbling or complaining; no gossip; no jealousy; no anger; no bitterness; or any other thing that would cause God to be ashamed of our behavior.  It also means to continue giving thanks. Obviously no one is required to give thanks for something like a cheating spouse. Continual thanks should be given for the blessings of God that never change, and for the blessings of each day. It is easy to overlook the blessings of eternity and the daily blessings when overwhelmed with a tragedy or sadness.  That is probably why God instructs us to give thanks in everything.  He is reminding us that His love and care are with us no matter what we are going through at the time. 

Be faithful.
Be obedient.
Repent of your own sins.
Don’t take on blame for the sins of others.
Be forgiving as that is required of God.
Forgiveness, while a definite command, does not equate with restoration of fellowship. The decision to restore fellowship in any situation is dependent on the actual repentance and turning from sin of the offending party. It requires the offending party to set a new and lengthy pattern of right behavior.  For serious matters actual Christian counseling is probably necessary. 

Once again, you are responsible for your own actions.  No one is excused for sinful and bad behavior because of the behavior of someone else.  Have a reverent awe of God, love Him, and keep His commandments.  That is the pathway to a life that is blessed by God. 

Monday, August 24, 2015

A Sure and Safe Eternal Future is Available



Be Prepared for the Path Ahead
Barbara Henderson

How do you prepare for the path ahead?  I mean it looks like the world is going through a paradigm shift in right and wrong.  God has been thrown out as the standard by which good and evil are judged.  Judges are openly proclaiming evil good and good evil.  Money for which people work very hard is stolen from the through taxes and passed out freely to lazy illiterates and illegals.  And the very brutal truth is that no one actually knows how to prepare for the future.  How can we prepare for a future that has no precedence? The future is more of an unknown that ever.  Except for one thing that is.  With the exception of those who leave this earth in the ‘rapture of the church’ we are all going to die!  (What is the rapture and when will it happen?’  http://tobarbara.blogspot.com/2011/05/rapture-what-is-it-and-when-will-it.html )

That you will die is not an unknown.  We don’t know the exact day or hour or even year.  But, it is going to happen.  Now is the time to prepare for this event!  And no, you don’t prepare by getting a pre-paid funeral, although that isn’t a bad idea.  You prepare by accepting the invitation of Jesus Christ to go to heaven at His expense.  To put it bluntly if you don’t prepare to go to heaven you are going to hell.  No one in heaven is going to wish they had gone to hell.  Those in hell will all be looking for an escape, but there will be no escape.  Hell is eternal.

Have you prepared for the one event that is surely coming to you?  Have you put your trust in Jesus Christ?  Do you know you are saved? (Are Christians right when they say I need to get saved?  http://tobarbara.blogspot.com/2011/05/are-christians-right-when-they-say-i.html )

Once you have been saved the time to lay up treasures in heaven begins. You have a very real future in heaven.  In heaven there is no corruption and no thieves. (Many people in heaven were former thieves, but through repentance they were cleansed from all unrighteousness.)  What you store in heaven stays in heaven.  You do this through obedience to God, striving to conform to the image of Christ, by loving others the way Christ loved you, studying the Bible, learning the teachings of the God through the Bible, gaining patience, and generally applying sound Bible teachings to personal actions. You do this daily and consistently. 

Trust the Lord.  As you do what the Lord says to do you trust Him to take care of the rest.  There have been instances where the Lord has provided food out of thin air for His children.  But trusting the Lord does not take away responsibility to do the best you can with the resources given to you.  Payday means pay the bills, buy food, give to God, and buy the things you need.  It does not mean spend it all on fun things and trust God to provide more money to pay your bills.  It means trust the Lord to begin with; do everything you are capable of doing; and trust God to manage the results of your labor.  In other words, be action based instead of outcome based.  Truthfully, we can often see the likely result of our labor, but we can’t know the exact outcome.  Often harder work provides better results. Today in the labor market the opposite is true.  Buying power is less.  More money does not go farther than it did even a few years ago.  Inflation is eating up the fruit of our labor.  We have no control over this.  Just do the best you can and trust God.  Because the government has become a den of thieves does not give Christians the right to stop providing for our own families and paying our taxes.  Like many of you I wish Jesus had left out the part of the gospel that says, ‘render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s, and unto God that which is God’s.’  God is always right, so be obedient to do what He says to do.

A change in leadership in a nation is not going to change a lot.  It may help in some instances, but national leadership is not where the real change needs to be.  The real change needs to be in Christians trusting God and crying out to Him for mercy.  Many people and so-called preachers of the gospel are preaching social injustice and social change instead of preaching Jesus Christ.  The outcome of such heresy from the pulpit is that the lost do not hear the plan of salvation.   We often hear people and preachers saying what Jesus would do in certain situations.  They need to give a Biblical example to back up their blather.  Jesus did feed thousands, but He did it without government assistance.  He didn’t ask for government intervention when He threw the money changers out of the temple.  Jesus had no opinion as far as rich or poor being better.  The rich young ruler loved his riches more than he wanted to follow Jesus.  That was the sin that cost him salvation.  He was ‘rich in spirit’ meaning he was proud and comfortable. Poor people can also be rich in spirit.  Jesus loved sinners of all sorts enough to tell the truth. Repent and turn from your sin or you will go to hell. 

Be brave.  Be strong and of good courage. 
And David said to Solomon his son, Be strong and of good courage, and do it: fear not, nor be dismayed: for the Lord God, even my God, will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for the service of the house of the Lord.’  1 Chronicles 28:20

  The world does not like Christians. The world hates the truth.  The world hates God.  The world hates Jesus. As God is love, the world system is hate.  Governments gobble power and control like chickens gobble up worms.  Christians are standing in their way.  Never the less, it is the duty of the Christian who actually cares about the lost to tell the truth. 
He that speaketh truth sheweth forth righteousness: but a false witness deceit.’  Proverbs 12:17.

When I think about the current political and social situation in the United States it breaks my heart.  The thought that comes to mind is that where there is no love of God there is no nation worth saving.  However, the USA and the entire world are full of people who need salvation.  Every soul saved has a citizenship in heaven.  Heaven is the nation in which we will spend eternity, and heaven is in no need of salvation. Everyone there is safe in the hand of God.  Heaven is already perfect. Love you country, but love heaven more.  Heaven is your eternal home.

If you were out to win a popularity contest you would lose if your talent was talking about Jesus Christ and His plan of salvation.  But, you would wise.  Proverbs 11:30 says, ‘The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life; and he that winneth souls is wise.’

Truly, our actions may make an earthly nation a better place to live.  But we cannot save a nation from sin.  We can point the way to Jesus Christ.  We can pray for souls to be saved so the population of heaven will be larger.  The Bible says we can’t understand the things that God has prepared for them that love Him.  But it is a place that has room for more people.  Do something good for the wonderful place you are going when you die.  Tell the lost how to meet you in heaven.  (Meet Me There – hymn – with lyrics – wonderful!   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QaWv4gLqyeg )

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